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| Topic: wonderful boyfriend 1200 miles away, love of life/ex in same state.... |
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 wonderful boyfriend 1200 miles away, love of life/ex in same state.... [message #1420] |
Sat, 04 September 2010 03:31 |
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Okay, so I dated this boy my SR year of high school, i loved him with my heart and felt that we were absolutely IN LOVE. Well when i went to school the distance threw a wrench in our relationship and i eventually got frustrated and ended it. its been close to a year of on and off "trying" to be friends, but still miles apart. Now I have a new bf from home who is wonderful. I never intended on doing a LDR again, but when it came to going to school (new school, i transfered for my major) we couldn't muster up the need to break up. Well Ironically my new school is in Baton Rouge LA and my Ex now lives in New Orleans now.....
My problem is i didn't think i had feelings for my ex any more, but i saw in when i was in the Big Easy last week and realized i missed him a lot. I really like this new guy he's great, but the connection i have with my ex in irreplaceable. I feel like the notebook, i have a great very nice guy but my ex is who im in love with and want to be with.
What do i do? I REALLY DONT WANT TO BREAK UP WITH MY BF. but honestly i know eventually something is going to happen with my ex and i don't want to be a cheater... What do i do????? 
BTW last fall my freshman year of school at Coastal Carolina University you came to CCU and when you asked who was in a LDR my friend pointed at me and you picked me to answer a few questions about if i thought it would last.
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| | Topic: Help with girlfriend |
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| Help with girlfriend [message #1409] |
Mon, 30 August 2010 07:26 |
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My girlfriend is becoming a total (angry girl) ever since we moved here to go to school. Every time I go to campus, she always makes snide remarks about how I'm going to pick up girls or leave her for a girl, or whatever. It has gotten to the point where I feel like I'm not allowed to be social at all. I have never cheated on her, and her accusations are completely unwarranted. She stresses out about school 24/7, takes it out on me, and is never ever happy.
I love her very much, but she is starting to make me think that she's going to be a grumpy old woman the rest of her life. And here is the kicker, I'm in a lease with her for a year.
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| | Topic: boyfriend, babies, the future |
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| boyfriend, babies, the future [message #1408] |
Thu, 26 August 2010 01:26 |
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My boyfriend and I have had 2 wonderful years together, and we intend on staying together for the rest of our lives. We are best friends, along with being in a relationship, and I can't imagine not being with him. However, we have one huge issue dividing us at all times, looming over our heads anytime we consider getting engaged: I want children, and he seriously does not.
I am so afraid that I am wasting time with him, when I could find someone else to be with who does want kids, but thinking about leaving him is incredibly painful, so I cannot even begin to imagine how I would feel if i did break up with him, especially over an issue like this. We are both in our early 20s, and when I ask friends from work, who know and love both of us, they tell me to keep at it, and that he will change his mind eventually. And I certainly don't want to trick or force him into being a father (eventually, I'm not even close to ready to produce offspring), as that is an awful thing to do to both him and my children.
While i seriously hope he does change his mind, I've known him for years, and he is always quite steadfast in his decisions. So I don't know if I should potentially waste my time with him, as someone else who would be adequate for me just vanishes from my life, or stay with him and hope that he changes his mind. And when I say wasting time, its only really wasting time as far as counting down seconds on my life clock. There is nothing more I love to do than be around him.
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| | Topic: My mom thinks I hate her.. -_- |
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| My mom thinks I hate her.. -_- [message #1404] |
Tue, 17 August 2010 15:16 |
Ashley Yasu
Messages: 1
Registered: July 2010
Location: Joplin, MO |
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I leave for school in two days. I needed to clean my room so I decided to go ahead and start to put the boxes and such I had already packed into my car to go ahead and clear the area. Well my mom wanted to go through my boxes, I calmly told her I had already packed, knew what was in them and I didn't want to take off the tape. This escalated into her saying "You must really hate me. Well **** you, I'm not helping you move." Of course I need their help, I am moving an hour away and I cannot fit everything in my car. Well I didn't take her seriously, and went to my friends house to drop something off and got something to eat. I came home and called my father, he said he would still help. I was putting some more things in my car and again my mother says she isn't coming on Thursday and I responded dad was. She looked really angry and I just went and finished putting things in my car.
I am not sure why she thinks I hate her. I push people away because I like to do things on my own. I've always been like this. There is no reasoning with her either. And I am sure she will change her mind and try to mend things with me. I don't hate her, I love my mom very much but this was it. I can't take her acting like such a child.
I see forgiveness in the sunrise and hope in the moonlight.
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| | Topic: Budgeting |
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| Budgeting [message #1350] |
Thu, 29 July 2010 11:56 |
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Hi Harlan,
I am trying to establish a budget. I am transfering as a junior to a 4 year universiyt living in the dorms and I want to make sure that I am planning finances accurately. I am trying to find a template for a personal student budget that would cover all expenses (fixed and variable).
Thank you,
-Jeremy, Western Michigan University
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| | Topic: oblivious/always annoyed roommate |
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| oblivious/always annoyed roommate [message #1343] |
Tue, 20 July 2010 16:17 |
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I moved into an apartment for the first time back in December. Shortly afterwards a friend (K) moved in, then there was a situation with her sister's dad and the sister (J) moved in too. K is essentially living with her boyfriend now, but still pays her portion of rent and utilities, and J spends most of her time outside of the apartment, it seems. When J is here, she usually has her boyfriend with her, and is usually annoyed. K pays me for utilities and rent, but I always have to ask J and she always acts like this is a big pain, and that she is entitled to live there simply because she is family and needs help with her situation, so we should be taking care of her out of the goodness of our hearts. Is there a way to talk to her over rent and utilities so she'll actually give them to me on time, rather than when I'm sweating it out, worried rent is going to be late? Because I'm tired of spending all my paychecks on the bills and sweating it out, barely making ends meet while waiting for a reimbursement.
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| | Topic: its getting better all the time |
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| its getting better all the time [message #1285] |
Wed, 28 April 2010 00:04 |
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Hey all. Just wanted to say that, though my first semester was a bit rocky in some areas, I am happy to say that things are much better now. I am getting ready for second semester finals and the thought of leaving campus for the summer actually makes me sad! So for all of you who are having issues adjusting or are getting ready to go off to college in the fall, here is some advice. Don't expect college to live up to the hype right away or to go exactly the way you expected. It takes everyone a different amount of time to adjust and get really comfortable. I am the author of still not settled in...so realize that you may feel a little disjointed at first. You will get the hang of things and gradually begin to embrace the life you are creating for yourself and one day you will probably realize that, though things are not necessarily how you planned, you are happy. Just don't put an insane amount of pressure on yourself, try to find balance, do things that you enjoy, don't think that your college experience has to be exactly what others have told you or what you expected and eventually, it will all start to click. If you still really don't feel great about your school after a few semesters(and I don't mean one, two, or even three, because it can take a lot of time), then try to find a place where you do.
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| | Topic: starting a relationship with a great guy at school now? When we both might transfer.... |
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 starting a relationship with a great guy at school now? When we both might transfer.... [message #1278] |
Wed, 31 March 2010 02:05 |
ughhh!!
Messages: 1
Registered: March 2010
Location: Carolina |
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So I have been seeing this boy for about a month and a half now. He's great and we have a lot of fun together. I would have never expected myself falling for a boy like him considering he is not generally my "type". But I really like him and he makes me very happy. I even met his parents over spring break.
Our only problem is committing to a relationship now. We both don't know if we are staying at the school we are currently at. And neither of us want to effect each others decision to go to a better school. We are worried about that. Plus is it worth it to start a relationship now when its an 80% percent chance will have to break up because long distance next year will be near impossible. We also live 4 hours apart when we are not at school. I would love to make things work but I just cant see it practical. Do you think we should take the chance and see how things work out? or just end it now and avoid any chance of heart break later?
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| | Topic: Move Out? Move Where? Uh? |
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| Move Out? Move Where? Uh? [message #1188] |
Fri, 16 October 2009 08:25 |
jJenniferR
Messages: 6
Registered: October 2009
Location: Texas |
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| Move Where?[ 0 vote(s) ] |
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| 1. | Another apartment with roommate matchup. |  0 / 0% | | 2. | A dorm, so you can experience that and make friends, even though you'll be 21. | 0 / 0% | | 3. | Stay there and stick it out. | 0 / 0% |
I'm on my second year living with a girl that I've known from high school. It's been pretty easy, and fightless living with each other so far. The problem is that I am wanting to branch out, and that she is becoming more and more needy. She and her 3-year-relationship-boyfriend just broke up, and after no longer having him to hang out with 24/7, she is turning to me. I feel that she and I don't have too much in common, and I would rather branch out, get out of my bubble, and do my own thing. I've lived with her ever since I moved out. She's very sweet, and I love her to death, but I feel I'd rather not always have to worry about having her as a tag-along. I've told her of my plans to cancel my lease early, but I told her, without lying, that it was because of the money situation, and I've told her I plan to replace myself with some person that she and our 3rd roommate agree to live with in the future. Her response is that we should all three move out, and move into a cheaper apartment together.
How do I go about letting her down? She sees us as "best friends," and as two friends that will live next to each other when we're older, and as becoming old maids together. Twice since the breakup, she's stayed in my bed with me, because she feels so sad and lonely. She just text messaged me an hour ago, from her dad's house, asking, "What are we doing tonight?" I haven't responded.
Thanks,
Jennifer
-Jenjen
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| | Topic: Getting into a new school now I'm worried about the money |
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| Getting into a new school now I'm worried about the money [message #1146] |
Sun, 06 September 2009 23:46 |
kbates240
Messages: 1
Registered: September 2009 |
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Hey everybody! Figured I'd greet myself first by saying my names Ken, I'm from NJ, first time poster, I go to a community college right now but plan on transferring by the end of this year, and now I sort of have a problem.
I'm trying to transfer to a state school and dorm at the same time. I've been going to community college for the past two years and now I'm looking to get out. My only problem is the money. I've been paying with loans but in community college its not a problem. Sallie Mae gives me $5,500 a year and my FAFSA gives me $1,600ish, which pretty much pays for all my classes figuring full time is only about $2,500 semester. But when I transfer now I'm looking at almost $20,000 a year.
My question is about loans. I need a loan(obviously)but both my parents don't have great credit. I know my dad tried for my sister that goes to college but they got denied, and I doubt my mother has any better. I don't know if I could get one of my aunts or uncles to sign yet, but in case I can't, what should I do? Are they're any banks/providers that give loans with out co-signers?Will they cover my whole payment?Or are there any other options I could do?
Any help would be greatly appreciated since I don't know where to step next. It worries me that when the time comes, I won't have the money to get out and I'll basically be stuck.
Thank you in advance!
Ken
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| | Topic: LOVE of my life lives 8000 miles away |
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| LOVE of my life lives 8000 miles away [message #1126] |
Thu, 20 August 2009 22:09 |
shash
Messages: 2
Registered: August 2009 |
Junior Member |
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My best friend of 5 years told me that she wants to have a relationship with me few months ago. I love her too, but didnt have the guts to disclose that with her (i know, she is one brave cookie). I came to US 2 years ago and she is in India. The only way i can talk to her is thru chatting since it costs a fortune for me to call her. I want to show her how much I love her, but i am clueless about how i can do it thru chatting. if i was in india i would do so much for her that she will have to expect hew every day 
How can i show my love towards her.
thank you!
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| | Topic: ROTC: Making the Choice |
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| ROTC: Making the Choice [message #1125] |
Thu, 20 August 2009 00:37 |
Sentinel91
Messages: 1
Registered: August 2009 |
Junior Member |
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So for starters, I'm an incoming freshman who's still trying to piece her future together and for some reason or another, I've always been very interested in the military. It's always had a draw on me and I know that I would like to join the military in some way after college. My plan right now--and I'm aware my mind might change since I'm still just a freshman--is to go through college, major in psychology, and then get my PhD and set up a clinic for soldiers. However, I wonder if I should join ROTC in order to better direct this goal of mine. Does anyone know enough about ROTC to be able to give me some good advice about this? Furthermore, I'm a varsity athlete. Would it be possible to continue with that if I'm partaking in ROTC training and classes?
"I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself."
-D. H. Lawrence
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| | Topic: Hello/Welcome |
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| Hello/Welcome [message #1110] |
Wed, 12 August 2009 17:31 |
godofmedia
Messages: 24
Registered: August 2009
Location: Ohio |
Junior Member |
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I see this thread stickied at the top of most forums that I am part of but for some reason not here. Toss up your name (I suggest first only), your grade level (sorry can't think of the correct term), and your school. If you need some specific info from/about your school, now you may have a place to find it.
Dennis Evans
Sophomore
University of Akron
Check out my art on www.photobucket.com/godofmedia
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| | Topic: Problems being a Commuter student |
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| Problems being a Commuter student [message #1082] |
Tue, 14 July 2009 13:18 |
peterxu422
Messages: 1
Registered: July 2009
Location: Home |
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I just finished high school and I was torn between going to Queens College (a local school) and Binghamton University. I ended up choosing Queens College because it only costs me $5000 while Binghamton cost me $17,000. Money isn't THAT big of an issue for me, but my parents convinced me to stay home. Aside from the money reason, QC also has a pretty interesting Business and Liberal Arts program that I was accepted into. But now that I look back on it, I'm having doubts about my choice and even starting to regret it a little. I never took into account of the amazing dorming experience and independence I would have if I went to Binghamton. Now, I really fear that I won't have that experience going to QC. There's also dorming at QC but it's $5000 per semester and my parents don't want to pay for it. I really worry that I'll be missing out on the college experience because I'll be a commuter student.
peterxu422
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| | Topic: High School Friend Contact Trouble |
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| High School Friend Contact Trouble [message #1074] |
Mon, 29 June 2009 10:43 |
PiCKLE_FAiRY
Messages: 4
Registered: June 2009
Location: On top of a really steep ... |
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I have made this thread a year ago, but this problem is still going on.
Simply put: My friend is very lonely, and calls me all of the time, but I have college which would entail homework and a social life outside of my high school friends.
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| m [message #1049] |
Sun, 24 May 2009 11:36 |
collegebound3
Messages: 1
Registered: May 2009 |
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| | Topic: The Never-There Roommate |
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 The Never-There Roommate [message #1047] |
Mon, 11 May 2009 18:23 |
Yamazi06
Messages: 1
Registered: May 2009
Location: Boone, NC |
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So i'm a rising junior at App State and I just transferred this january from a different school. Being the new student is never easy but luckily my boyfriend attends the same school so it wasn't a huge deal. Anyways, I am currently living off campus with one of my previous roommates from a house we shared with one other girl from January until the first of May. We decided to move out because the house was in terrible condition and the bills were out of control.
She has a boyfriend here also and they have been dating on and off for 3 years (they break up about twice a month & every time she gets really upset and goes home which is about an hour or so away.) She was never really around at the last house because she hated it and was staying over at her boyfriends all the time, but she said that once we moved into our new appt together she would be around more often and we would hang out a lot more. So far though that has been a bunch of bs. I know it hasnt been that long since we moved in but it's already proving to be lonely around our new place because again she is ALWAYS with her boyfriend and when she isnt with him she wants to be. And if ever she has a problem with him or one of his friends she gets ultra upset cries for days, can't be without her boyfriend or mom, and again is never around unless she needs a shoulder to cry on. She has a car and I don't which doesnt help the situation at all either, but i am getting really sick of her routine, i mean when i'm not hanging out with my boyfriend i hope that i can hang out with her because unlike her i dont have to be with my boyfriend 24/7... and i don't know what to do because i am really bad with confrontation, i mean i guess i should talk to her about it but i'm not sure what to say or if it will really even help.
I'm pretty frustrated with the situation and dont think i can stand it anymore without getting mad, and i dont want to bottle up my frustration about the situation because it usually never turns out well.
Oh and one last bit; she is always complaining she is sick of her boyfriends friend and being around them so much... well i've told her that i'm always here to hang out with, but that hasnt done much, yet she still complains about them.
HELP ME GET MY ROOMIE BACK!!
-S-
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| | Topic: I know no one here has the answers, but I thought I should ask anyway |
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| I know no one here has the answers, but I thought I should ask anyway [message #1043] |
Sat, 25 April 2009 22:12 |
imaginationac
Messages: 9
Registered: February 2007
Location: University of Georgia |
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I am a student at the University of Georgia. If you haven't heard by now, there's been a triple homicide committed today by one of the professors. It occurred off campus, about a block and half from where I live.
I... didn't know the victims personally, but I am part of the local theatre community. Fear, anger, and confusion are about the only three emotions going though my head right now. I don't understand what could possibly possess someone to commit such a horrible act. I'm scared to go outside, but what choice do I have...finals are in a week, for crying out loud!
And three families are now broken in a way that can never be recovered.
What am I supposed to be doing at this time?
Is it bad that I want the bastard dead?
...Just some thoughts.
Theatre Undergrad, Class of 2010
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| | Topic: Building A Computer |
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| Building A Computer [message #1042] |
Mon, 20 April 2009 05:23 |
powerati
Messages: 1
Registered: April 2009 |
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I currently live in Hong Kong, which is half-way around the world, and when I get to Champlain, I want to build my own PC. The main issue I see with this is storage during the winter and summer breaks. It's going to be a gaming PC and obviously I'm going to be paying a lot of money for the parts, not exactly a good thing to get stolen. Another thing is sending some parts from Hong Kong to US. Does anyone know if couriers or post office people could provide some materials to ship computer parts, i.e. anti-electrostatic bags, computer screen covers, etc. The other option that I can think of is buying a gaming laptop, but is a lot easier to steal than a desktop computer if one is looking for a quick grab.
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| | Topic: How do I talk to this guy? |
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| How do I talk to this guy? [message #1041] |
Thu, 09 April 2009 15:58 |
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I am getting towards the end of my freshmen year and I feel like I need to get some more friends than the few that I have already made. I have seen this guy sitting by himself at the cafeteria sometimes who looks pretty chill. I also seem him at the gym all the time and pretty much everywhere else I go. He seems like a pretty cool guy and someone that I want to get to know. The only problem is that I have a huge fear of approaching other people. I always find excuses for not asking for him to sit with me and my friends or for not striking up a conversation.
The thing is, that he eats like a professional eater. I mean, plates and plates and plates of food. Sometimes I feel like I would be interrupting an important time for him to fuel up or something like that. At the gym, we both have headphones on which makes it hard to talk. Plus, I don't know what the hell to talk about in the first place if the time ever came.
Please help!
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| Roommate's actions are reflecting on to me. [message #1009] |
Sun, 11 January 2009 08:25 |
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Just going to put this buntly my roommate sleeps around alot al alot and peeople are talking its getting hard to defend her b.c i dont know whats true or whats really going. It doesnt help that she seems to tell people bits and pieces of her sexduall e doings.. Is it right for me to say anything to her like asking whats going on is this stuff true or what not. Since Im only her rooommate in all..
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| | Topic: Semester Break |
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| Semester Break [message #1006] |
Fri, 19 December 2008 19:32 |
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Coming home for semester break has been terrible so far. My family doesn't remember how the house works with me present. I only have about 2 friends that I even care to see... everyone else makes me feel inadequate with their crazy college stories (don't get me wrong, I really want to go back to college and I have stories too. i just always feel like they're not as good as everyone else's). I'm not getting many hours at my job this break, so I literally have NOTHING TO DO. I really don't want to sit around my house and know that everyone else is out reuniting and catching up. I hate it at home, and I don't know how I can be here for an entire month! How can I make it better?
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| | Topic: SMOKING BUTTS NO MORE IN BUFFALO! RIGHT OR WRONG? |
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| SMOKING BUTTS NO MORE IN BUFFALO! RIGHT OR WRONG? [message #999] |
Tue, 25 November 2008 16:06 |
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Next fall, smoking will be banned at all three U of Buffalo campuses — in all buildings and on all grounds, including parking lots, university officials said Thursday. Offsite UB locations are also off-limits. You can read the article in its entirety here.
QUESTION: Should students be able to smoke on campus and expose non-smokers to carcinogens? If allowed to smoke on campus, is it fair to make them smoke in poorly ventilated caves 6 to 10 feet under the ground?
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| | Topic: boyfriend |
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| boyfriend [message #997] |
Mon, 24 November 2008 20:17 |
bithis
Messages: 1
Registered: November 2008 |
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so ive been seeing a guy for a short time now but my parents dont know. ive tryed to keep it quiet but i'm afraid what they would say if they found out. i need help should i tell them or not?
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| | Topic: A mooching roomate |
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| A mooching roomate [message #859] |
Fri, 07 March 2008 22:21 |
Dino Allsman
Messages: 1
Registered: March 2008 |
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basically my theme is what would you do in this situation.
(back ground story) im 18 and a finishing up my freshman year at collage. i go to my community college and because of this my parents have me living at home (background story over) anyway about a year ago my friend who was 17 at the time and me decided it would be cool for him to move into my room together (he was living 20 miles out of the city - i live in city). (he's a like a prep has a girlfriend (he pays my parents $100 dollars + 50 bucks for his cell phone + has to do some chores) i have showed him some of my friends and now ill come into the room or be sitting on my computer and he'll just call up them randomly to see what their doing and if they want to hang out with me just over in my "corner". i will talk to them like 1 in every 10 calls (plus i drive he doesn't so i have to take us). he also makes tries to get in good with anyone female or someone cool then takes action like when a female friend(lets say Jen) of mine was texting me he goes "Oh Jen!" gets on his phone and calls her. while were in the car and talks all though wal-mart and halfway home then his girlfriend calls two min later and he goes "hey baby were on our way home ill call you when i get home"
sorry this is so long (this is just a surface)
he might be moving in a month for a job or he will be kicked out for being $700 back on his rent/phone so idk
im just not sure what do to
anyone is free to lend advice or comments 
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| | Topic: A Cool Band - Duenow |
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| A Cool Band - Duenow [message #760] |
Thu, 16 August 2007 12:12 |
harlan
Messages: 282
Registered: April 2005 |
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If you guys know of any cool bands you want to direct people to, feel free to use this thread... I met these guys on the road --- amazing. Check out: http://www.myspace.com/duenow
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