This whole marriage thing is a huge commitment.

The idea of signing a contract that binds you to a partner for life is a hard to handle concept for many men. And it's not like anyone offers a five or ten year marriage contract either. It's all or nothing - total devotion, complete commitment and a decision that lasts forever.

With that in mind, marriage can be wonderful and wonderfully frightening too!

Whether to let him back into your life depends entirely on your feelings. A lot might hinge on how he left things and why he's now decided to get back into your life.

You've obviously been deeply hurt. Make sure he understands, if you do decide to take him back, you will never allow him to hurt you like this again. Next time, he's gone forever.

Your heart can only take so much beating.

And happy birthday!

That's very cooperative of him to cooperate with the co-op member's sister.

It's understandable that a young, beautiful, promiscuous girl flirting with your boyfriend might make you uncomfortable, but if you trust your boyfriend and you trust your relationship, you can trust there's nothing to worry about.

Any guy would be flattered to be the target of a young and beautiful flirt. You can't realistically expect him to tell her, "Stop looking at me like that, I've got a girlfriend?"

Of course, her behavior was completely inappropriate. But you said it, she's very young and very confused. As for her letter writing campaign, once again, you have to trust your boyfriend's isn't going to respond with steamy love letters.

While there's no cause for alarm, talk to him again and explain just how uncomfortable this situation makes you feel. After that - it's all up to the relationship.

What do you call a midget who tells racist, bigoted, hateful, sexist, insensitive jokes?

Totally ignorant - sorry about the midget...

It's not even like you can even tell a tasteless joke today without being offensive. The average person has something like five or six tasteless joke branches in their family tree.

Your boyfriend's friend might have good intentions, but he has a bad sense of humor. It's hard to enjoy a joke knowing it's at the expense of another person's culture. Even if you know they're wrong, many of these jokes only reinforce negative stereotypes and feed rampant ignorance.

At the same time, some of these jokes are just so funny, they do the opposite -

Bottom line -if you find them offensive, you shouldn't have to listen. Out decency and respect for you, he needs to stop. And tell your boyfriend, if this is how his good friend acts, people are only going to associate him with this complete moron.

And that's not funny either.

I'm thinking she might be interested in you. Nah, not interested - just hypothetically interested.

If you find you're both on the same hypothetical page, it's time to do some serious soul searching. From everything you've mentioned, all indications point to something happening. Whatever it is, you two are poised to hurt a lot of people.

So, stop the confusion and ask her a hypothetically ambiguous question.

Between all the deceit and secrecy, it's hard to know what's going on. With such an emotionally charged situation, it's difficult to know if it's love or just emotions gone wild. This is only a question you and she can answer.

And if you do decide to take things to the next level with this woman, don't be even a little surprised when your engaged friend becomes your unengaged enemy.

It's a clear choice, risk your friendship, betray the girlfriend and hope you get the girl.

I have feeling not everyone will agree with you on this one...

It's a quite a statement to claim the recent "trend" of open expression is leading unsuspecting heterosexual men and women "down the wrong road."

While it's an interesting, even more interesting will be hearing from those who live down the road you call wrong.