Shy
Thirty-something Needs to Do Something
Dear
Harlan,
I am a single 35-year-old woman who has not dated very much
-- in large part, I believe, due to my shyness. I have had
a few short-lived relationships but have never been in a long-term
relationship. I am curious to know, from your perspective
(as a guy), if men would see my lack of relationship experience
at my age as a red flag.
Dateless and Doubtful
Dear
Dateless and Doubtful,
Personally, I prefer a woman who knows what she wants and
isn't afraid to express it. This way, I know where I stand.
But still, you're perfectly desirable. A lot of men prefer
shy women (a lot of guys are shy). Some of them love shy women
because it's a comfortable fit; others love shy women because
they're more easily manipulated and exploited. A women who
doesn't have much confidence is easily manipulated and exploited
(that's the scary part). More important than how men feel
about you is how you feel about yourself. The moment you know
you're hot and desirable and are a hidden treasure flying
under the radar is the moment men will see it. Shyness is
only a red flag if you're stuck hiding behind it.
