Sharing
1st Birthday Party Might Be
Big Birthday Bummer
Dear
Harlan,
My daughter will be turning 1 this year. Her cousin (my husband's
niece) also shares the same birthday. My husband thinks its
OK for the two of them to have a birthday party together.
I do not feel the same. I think my daughter should have her
own birthday party. I know she won't know the difference this
year, but I feel the same way about any birthday party we
will have for her. She should have her own special celebration.
Am I being difficult?
Difficult Mom
Dear Difficult Mom,
Unless your daughter and her cousin have bad blood over some
spilled milk, I can't see a compelling reason not to share
a birthday. Sharing a day doesn't diminish its significance;
it's not like sharing a wedding. I agree that the FIRST is
a big deal, but it can be an even bigger deal with a cousin.
Not only can you spare relatives having to spend two weekend
days at two kids' parties, you can be even bigger (think live
entertainment). Make sure there are two cakes, two birthday
songs, two themes. Even if you want Pooh and your in-law wants
My Little Pony this can work - it can work if you want it
to work. With properly framed pictures and videos, your daughter
will be able to enjoy her birthday for years to come. All
that said, if you want your daughter to have her own party,
don't let anyone stop you.
