Cheating
Past is Valid Reason to Doubt
Being Faithful in Future
Dear
Harlan,
I have a girlfriend right now who is a high-school senior.
I moved away for my freshman year in college. I'm really worried
that something will go wrong with our relationship (distance,
not seeing each other daily as we are used to, etc.). She
already cheated on me once while I was out of town over the
summer. She swore she'd never do it again. What should I do?
How do I get over my worry?
Worried
Dear Worried,
If I were you, I'd be worried too, because I could NEVER trust
her. I'd always be waiting for her to hurt me again. When
she didn't call, my mind would wander. Every weekend, I'd
wonder. When I'd talk to her, I'd think she was covering up.
See, until you trust her, you can't date her. For you to get
over your worries, you have to believe that she can be trusted.
And you don't seem to trust her. For that reason, you have
good reason to worry.
