Girlfriend
Is Sad That Boyfriend Can't See
How Sad He Makes Her
Dear
Harlan,
My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year,
and about two weeks ago he broke up with me because he said
that I was too controlling and very jealous. Then the other
day he asked me why I "looked happy." I said I am trying not
to show that I am very upset still. He said, "Well, it would
be nice if you showed the real you." The problem is that I
am very upset. I cry every night. He looks so depressed all
the time and is very pale. He told me that he is very upset
too and cannot sleep and has headaches. Should I show that
I am upset? PLEASE HELP!!!!
So
Sad
Dear So Sad,
You can videotape yourself crying. Then you can post it online
and send him a link. Then he can play it over and over and
over again. Or you can just say that his inability to trust
that you're upset is just another reason why this thing is
done. Maybe you just show your emotions in a different way.
And maybe you need a man who can appreciate this. As for being
jealous and controlling, if this is true, figure out if you
want to change it. If you don't think you're jealous and controlling,
figure out what made him think this so that you can learn
how not to be this way next time.
