Tiptoeing
Around Girlfriend is Sign Relationship
is on Thin Ice
Dear
Harlan,
I have a girlfriend, and we've been together for nearly three
months. Even though we are young, I feel that I really love
her. I have been working really hard not to mess things up,
but she constantly aggravates me - introduces me as a friend,
even. I fear that she will try to break up with me, and I
am scared to tears. I am very sensitive and have a traumatic
history. I'm asking for the simplest solution that you have
to offer.
Fearing
the Worst
Dear Fearing the Worst,
The day you start tiptoeing around your girlfriend and crying
because you're afraid she'll break up with you is the day
you shouldn't be dating this girl. Here's the problem: When
you spend more time being afraid of getting dumped than being
happy, you resort to doing anything it takes to please your
partner, including getting stepped on, being disrespected
and hiding your emotions. I know you can't imagine ever finding
someone else, but there's a lot of love to go around. All
this tells me is that you don't think much of yourself, because
if you did, you'd know that you have options. She is not the
only woman who can love you. You have options. NEVER forget
it.
