Sex
with boyfriend Causes Problem
With Parents (um, that's no surprise)
Dear
Harlan,
I just turned 18. My problems all started when my parents
found out that I had sex with my boyfriend. My parents took
extreme measures to keep me away from him. I graduated from
high school with honors and am going to attend college in
the fall, but I have a big issue facing me. I love my boyfriend
deeply, and I would like to continue being with him. But my
parents said that if I do that, I must move out of the house.
Confused
Dear Confused,
Note to parents: Forcing your teenage daughter to move out
of the house and in with her boyfriend will result in your
daughter having more sex with her boyfriend, growing closer
to him and growing further from you.
Advice
to Confused: Figure out if this is about your boyfriend or
about your having sex. If it's your boyfriend, find out specifically
what your parents have a problem with. Parents' opinions are
actually worth something. Once you get clarification, thank
them for caring so much (that will throw them) and figure
out what YOU want. If you move out, make sure you can move
back in or with someone else if things go bad. The last thing
you want is to depend on a boyfriend for everything. But as
an honors student, you should know that.
