Living
With Co-Worker Five Days A Week And
Husband Two Days Won't Work
Dear
Harlan,
I am married and have developed feelings for a co-worker,
beyond the workplace. These feelings have become so intense
that I find myself blurting things out or hugging him and
kissing him on the cheek. I love my husband, but I love this
man too. I am the type who needs to express my feelings, and
it is killing me not to tell this co-worker how I feel. We
work together mainly in the summer, and he will be leaving
in a week. I am finding myself in a depression over his leaving.
My husband and I live apart during the week because of work,
and it is a great comfort to know that my co-worker is around
when my husband is not. I have developed an unhealthy and
damaging attachment to him. The worst thing is that I don't
know how he feels about me. He goes out of his way to help
me and has put his arm around me, but he has given me no concrete
signs that he feels anything like I do about him.
I have insanely thought about living with him during the week
and with my husband on the weekend.
Betwixt
and Between
Dear Between,
That sounds perfect - live with your co-worker for five days
a week and your husband for two days a week. But in all fairness
to your husband, he should really get five days and the co-worker
should get two days. Being your husband should count for something.
Then again, five days would mean you or your husband would
have to move or change careers. It would also mean talking
to him about your marriage, which might leave you with no
days with your co-worker, or as many as seven days. Honestly,
this would be so much easier if you just talked to your husband.
This might screw up your fantasy, but it's the right thing
to do. Who knows, you might just find out that your husband
is living with a co-worker five days a week and never had
the courtesy to check with you first. Selfish, I know.
