Prison
Can Do Crazy Things
to a Loving Girlfriend
Dear
Harlan,
I've been with my boyfriend for going on three years, and
I love him very much. Last year he got into some trouble and
has been in jail since. Nothing really horrible, he was riding
in a car with his little brother, who had some drugs on him,
and he said the drugs were his to spare his baby brother.
Now he's paying for it. Before he got into trouble, he asked
me to marry him, and he still wants to get married, but I
was unfaithful while he was gone. I feel horrible about it.
In the beginning, he said he didn't care as long as I didn't
tell him, but I know he cares, and it would really hurt him
if he knew. I just don't know whether to tell him or to keep
it to myself. I don't know if I can live with the guilt, or
if we could build a marriage when I've been sleeping around.
Should I tell him?
Prison Girlfriend
Dear Prison Girlfriend,
What's to tell him? That you cheated and don't know why? That
you hope this doesn't ruin your chances of being faithful
when married, but there's a good chance it will?
Before telling him, you need to figure it out and tell yourself.
Was it for attention from a man? Because you wanted a reason
to break up with him and needed a reason? Because you're not
ready to get married? Because this isn't something you want,
and you needed to do the one thing that would make it impossible
for you to be with him? Don't date him until you figure it
out for yourself - and then tell him.
