Guy
Wants Sex More Than He
Wants A Girlfriend
Dear
Harlan,
I have been together with this guy for about two months, and
we are not going out yet. He has shown me signs that he really
does care about me. But, I am also a virgin, and the other
night, he told me that it could be a problem in the long run
(if we didn't have sex after a certain amount of time). I
told him that I would not be rushed into it, and he still
calls me all the time. What does this mean? Does he care?
Not to mention, he is a freshman in college and is coming
home next week for the summer. I just don't know if I should
pursue this relationship.
Pressured
Dear Pressured,
Pursue? When a guy you haven't even dated pressures you to
have sex, he's more interested in getting off than getting
to know you.
If
he wants to get to know you, then he can pursue you and get
to know you and not have sex with you until you're ready.
And if, after getting to know him better, you like him - or
love him and trust him, and are confident he won't give you
a sexual souvenir (herpes, genital warts, HIV, etc.) - then
you can decide if you want to have sex with him (i.e., he
can get tested, but even then, you can't be sure). To set
this up under pressure from the start is only setting yourself
up to lose your virginity to a guy who cares more about having
sex than about you - and you deserve so much more.
