Men
With Integrity Don't
Lie,
Cheat And Steal
Dear
Harlan,
I've
recently begun to have feelings for the wrong girl; she is
engaged to my friend. I am in a relationship with her friend,
and we've been together for five years and have a 3-year-old
daughter. The girl I can't get off my mind has a child with
my friend. My girlfriend is convinced that there is something
going on between us, and it has caused their friendship to
suffer. When we are together, we are always flirting and sending
little mixed messages. I love, but am not in love with, my
daughter's mother. I feel that this is the same for the other
couple. I am not a bad guy and I would never break up a happy
home, but I can't stop thinking about her. She and I must
be a match made in heaven. We have fooled around a couple
of times, but nothing too intimate -just serious flirting.
He is my friend, but I would be willing to risk it for her.
But that's just it: I would risk everything - including her
- if she doesn't really have feelings for me, so I wanted
someone's opinion before I make any irrational moves. I know
that she is attracted to me. It's just that, just because
they have a kid doesn't mean they have to be together, right?
I've never really felt like this about anyone. What to do?
Stuck on Best Friend's Girl
Dear
Stuck,
There's
something called integrity.
Find some.
If your
relationship is going nowhere, get out of it. If you want
to date, then date single women (she can become single). If
your best friend's fiancee is interested in you, make it clear
that you don't cheat and will only be with her if she's single.
But to cheat, destroy two families, ruin two friendships and
betray so many people's trust is to lack complete integrity.
Really, man, have some integrity.
P.S.
There might be only one of her, but there are countless other
women with similar qualities who are NOT engaged to your friend.
Find one.
