Married
Man Is No Good At Flirting
Dear
Harlan,
I
have been married for many years, and I'm somewhat happy.
My relationship is tired, and my love life is too. Recently
my office hired a new worker, and she is very attractive.
I think she is flirting and may be interested in me (she is
married too). The problem is that I found out I am oblivious
to female signals when it comes to these things. I ran into
an old female friend, whom I had not seen in a long time.
She is married too, but she pointed out to me (with her husband
and my wife around) that she once had strong feelings for
me. I had no clue and actually had feelings for her back then,
but I never acted on them. I don't know whether I am currently
receiving signals of interest or not. I am attracted to this
woman, but I am afraid of looking like a fool, making things
awkward at work and damaging a friendship.
Totally
Clueless
Dear
Clueless,
Here's
an idea - get a woman's point of view. Ask your wife if she
thinks the woman at work is flirting and what you can do to
flirt back. Oh wait, no, no, bad idea. I forgot. You don't
talk to your wife about what you're feeling. In fact, you
don't talk to any woman about your feelings.
That's
the problem - you don't tell women how you feel. You didn't
do it back then, and you're still not doing it now. As far
as you know, your wife has been flirting with you for years,
and it's gone unnoticed. This might be the somewhat problem
behind your somewhat happy marriage. Once you start saying
what you feel, you'll start listening to what a woman says.
Then you can find love again - and if you work on your marriage,
you won't have to cheat to find it.
