Rejection Diary - Entry
#129
Rejection
By Silence (RBS)
Isn't Painless For Everyone
Dear
Harlan,
In one of your columns a while back you mentioned a thing about
RBS (Rejection by Silence). You stated something to the effect
that RBS was a very cowardly way of rejecting someone. That may
be true, but the fact of the matter is I think most people prefer
to do it that way because they probably figure that it's the easiest,
most painless way of doing it. Wouldn't you agree?
Curious
Dear Curious,
It's only painless for the people doing the rejecting. It's painful
to not get a return call, e-mail or text. It's painful to be ignored.
It's painful to feel like you don't matter. RBS is a dangerous
habit.
Rejection
at the core is uncomfortable, but part of being a compassionate
person is learning how to get comfortable with the uncomfortable.
RBS breeds insecurity, wastes time and ultimately causes more
pain for everyone. Sure, some people aren't equipped to handle
the truth. Those situations need to be handled with care. But
largely RBS isn't about the person being rejected - it's about
someone who is too cowardly to share the truth.
