Entry #127
Rejection Diary
Drunk
Lying Cheater
Dear
Harlan,
I
did something terrible; I cheated on my boyfriend that I've been
with for eight months. I was really drunk at a party, and it was
with one of his best friends. Now I feel terrible. I can't eat
and can barely sleep. We agreed that we wouldn't tell anyone,
but I feel horrible. I don't know what to do. I'm in love with
my boyfriend, but if he found out, we would be over. What should
I do?
In
Love
Dear
In Love,
You
might be in love, but you're not ready to be in love. If you were,
you'd never have done this.
As
for your options, you can keep lying or tell him the truth. I
say, tell him that you're way too immature and insecure to be
in a serious relationship. You know this because you cheated on
him, someone you love. Then tell him that you don't expect forgiveness,
but you're going to make sure this never happens with anyone else.
You're going to work to become secure enough so that you can feel
good enough without drinking and looking for other guys to validate
you. If you can't get to this place on your own, then tell him
you're going to get help. That's the best you can do. When the
initial shock is over, let him know that the accomplice was his
best friend. Give him a little time. A guy can only lose so much
in one day.
