Entry #124
Rejection Diary
It's
a R.A.W. 2006 Success --
Even If He Didn't Get The Girl
Dear
Harlan,
I was inspired by your call to action for R.A.W., as I am tired
of my perennial singledom. After summoning up the courage to ask
out the girl of my dreams, "Amy," long story short, I was politely
turned down because she was attracted to one of my friends. Harlan,
while he seems to be a nice guy on the outside, he is incredibly
self-centered, misogynistic and pretty much uses his girlfriends
to his own ends. I consider myself to be a fairly considerate
person, but at the same time, I still feel bad. My question is
if it's selfish to wish for a speedy breakup. While it probably
would be better for her and for me, I'd be benefiting at somebody
else's expense. I feel guilty. Please help me.
Wishing
the Worst
Dear Wishing the Worst,
Congratulations on a successful risk taken. Although you didn't
get the girl, she did get to know how you feel, and you've freed
up time to take more risks. As for wishing them a speedy breakup,
wish away. No guy wishes for his dream girl to be violated, used
and exploited by a friend. Should she realize that she deserves
to be respected (it could take days, months or years) she can
find you. Now that she knows how you feel about her, she can safely
approach you in the future.
As for what's next, focus on other options. You have thousands,
no, millions of options - women who can appreciate a guy like
you.
