Entry
#120
Rejection Diary
Cut
All Ties -
End This Yo-Yo Relationship
Dear
Harlan,
I've been dating my ex for four years, with plenty of ups and
downs. We were both totally in love, but things just kept falling
apart. We'd take a little break, get back together and have fun,
then fight.
He started losing conviction to keep making things work, and I
couldn't do it alone. We stopped talking three weeks ago after
a fight, and since then he has been so hurtful, having a female
friend prank call me and send me messages, and hanging out with
one of my best friends whom he doesn't even know. I still love
him to death, even though I know we can't work, but I can't see
what I've done to deserve this treatment, and it's killing me.
Should I confront him?
Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Why confront him? So he can apologize and take you back? So he
can say that he'll never do it again and then do it again? So
he can promise to respect you and then disrespect you again? How
many times will it take for you to see that this isn't working?
I agree that you love him to death, but there are other men you
can love who will also love you. The person you need to confront
is yourself. Ask yourself why you keep running back to someone
who can't give you what you need and deserve. You've been there
and done this too many times. Face the reality - it's done. Should
he try to get you back, ask yourself what will be different this
time. The answer? Nothing
