Entry
#118
Rejection Diary
Reject Best Friend Or Boyfriend?
Hello
Harlan,
I have been going out with my current boyfriend for five years
now, and we have often talked about living together, getting married
and eventually having kids. We love each other, but more recently
I have realized that I also love my best friend. We have been
best friends since primary school, and he has described us as
soul mates (although at the time I think he meant the friendship
type). I am not completely sure whether he feels the same way
about me in terms of love, but there have been signs throughout
the years that it's definitely possible. I do love my boyfriend
and I don't want to hurt him unnecessarily, so I am unsure whether
I should pursue this newfound love or just stick to having a great
friend.
Highly
Confused
Hello Highly Confused,
It's like being in a forest and trying to map out a path on the
ground as opposed to mapping out a path while hovering 5,000 feet
in the air. Distance changes the whole look and feel of the world.
The answer: Put a little distance between you and your boyfriend.
Help yourself get a better look at the world around you. Tell
your man that you need some time to think. Talk to your guy friend
and see how he feels about you (don't run and date him). Think
about what you have and what you're risking. If dating your friend
is a must, date him. If it's not, go back to your man completely
committed to the future.
If you want to be honest and loving, there's nothing harder but
more honest and loving than taking time to figure it out. Your
best friend deserves it, your boyfriend deserves it and, most
importantly, you deserve it.
