Entry
#115
Rejection Diary
The Serial Breakup
Dear
Harlan,
My ex-boyfriend and I were going strong about 10 months ago. Now
we keep breaking up. We break up, and about a month later we get
back together. He tells me he loves me but that he just can't
be with me right now. Then he calls me and comes back to me. We
recently broke up because I can't take it anymore. I still love
him and I want to work it out, but every time we get back together
he turns back into his old self. I love him so much and miss him
like crazy (he says he misses me too). What can I do to get back
the passion? We need help!
Lost
and Confused
Dear Lost,
The passion theorem works like this: Each
partner's desire to be with the other partner multiplied together
equals passion. The theorem looks like this on paper:
Desire
x Desire = Passion
In
your love equation, your desire = 100; his desire = 0.
100
x 0 = 0, and that = breakup.
What you need is someone who desires to be with you. The only
time this zero desires you is when he's broken up with you, and
by that time he's out of the equation. Besides, that's not love,
that's just being afraid of being alone. Find someone who desires
to be with you all the time, or at least 90 percent of the time,
and you will find passion that lasts longer than a couple of nights
of rekindled love.
