Entry
#114
Rejection Diary
Rejection
at Work
Dear
Harlan,
I work as a cocktail waitress with cocky and pretty girls. Everyone
hangs out after work and bonds by drinking. I quit drinking (for
the second time), so I haven't bonded. I'm also in my last university
semester and have a heavy workload. Most of the girls work hard,
but there's one girl who is extremely lazy. I have had serious
problems with her. We're both new and work alone on the second
floor. I don't want to say anything, because I'm worried everyone
else would side with her. I feel insecure that I can't drink with
everyone. In fact, this particular girl laughed at me when she
found out, and one of the bartenders joined in. I feel like the
odd one out, and it's making me depressed and bitter. Should I
stand up for myself and risk confronting this girl, or let it
go?
Cocktail Waitress
Dear Cocktail Waitress,
Like someone on The South Beach Diet working in a candy store,
a bar isn't the best place for someone who has a bad relationship
with alcohol. Let's just suppose that you were comfortable being
sober, comfortable with the idea that you come to work to make
money - not friends - and did your job better than anyone else.
You could have a discussion with your co-worker, not a confrontation.
You could hang out after work for a little bit and have a nonalcoholic
drink and be the cool sober girl. You could go to work to make
money and not worry about making friends. If you can't take on
this mind-set, find a new job in a healthier environment - like
at a candy store.
