Entry
#112
Rejection Diary
Rejection
By Circumstance
Dear
Harlan,
I took a risk and made a guy friend online who rejected me three
weeks ago after a two-year relationship and 2,000 miles apart.
Boy, that fantasy sure felt like reality. We had a great writing
rapport. I could sense he was slipping away with fewer and fewer
e-mails. And then one day it happened - he stopped completely,
with no explanation. At that point, my e-mails became obsessive,
I admit, trying to find out why and to understand. Then I contacted
his roommate - a big no-no, I found out later - which made him
angry, and he wrote that I should never contact him, call him
or e-mail him again. He didn't respond to my apology. My self-esteem
is hurting since he no longer wants me in his life. How do I feel
good about myself again?
Down
Hi Down,
To help you out, I've come up with four possible reasons why your
online friend severed your connection:
A) He found a friend who actually laughs out loud, not LOL.
B) His wife of 50 years asked him to stop chatting with young
women.
C) He's a selfish idiot.
D) You said or did something wrong.
When dealing with rejection by circumstance, the biggest mistake
those with little self-esteem make is to assume that they have
done something wrong. The less confident the person, the more
likely he or she is to blame him- or herself and answer D. But
when encountering rejection without an explanation, the rule is
to assume it's NOT you. Therefore, the correct answer is A, B
or C. NOT D. Feel better?
