Entry #111

R.A.W. 2004
Something Better Around The Corner

Dear Harlan,

My senior year in high school, I was at the culmination of a crush of two years. The object of my affection, "Josh," had finally agreed to start dating me after much resistance. I thought I had finally worn him down and gotten him to see what a great girlfriend I would be. I never noticed that, as physical as we got, there were no verbal expressions of affection on his end. In fact, he often suggested we go back to being friends. But I would have none of it.

Right before Christmas break, I learned that he was fooling around with three other girls in the school play he was in, as well as perusing a relationship with another girl he'd long had his eye on. It finally occurred to me that he was never interested in me, and he was only giving me what I wanted so I would stop pestering him. He was just playing another part. I was devastated to have been so deceived, and I immediately cut off all contact with him. I swore I would stop looking for boyfriends and forget that guys even existed. I couldn't handle being turned down again. But fate had something different in mind, and soon I couldn't help but notice the cute, geeky, funny guy in one of my classes. He was everything Josh was not. And for the first time in my life, I was too nervous to approach him. I flirted and hoped he would get the hint, but finally a friend helped me take the risk and told him to take me on a date. And he did. We've been together five years as of this Valentine's Day.

Happier than Ever

Dear Happier,

The geeks and nice guys know how to treat a woman. They work hard to please... Thanks for sharing your risk. And happy anniversary!!!

 





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