Entry #109
REJECTION DIARY:
Do Losers Go At It Alone?
Dear Harlan,
A majority of my male friends do not want to go out to meet new
people. Unfortunately, the ones who do are uncomfortable in a
bar scene, and they seem like they drag me down. I'd love to go
out and socialize alone, but sometimes I get the drift that I'm
sort of a creep because I am alone. What should I do?
Cocktails for One
Dear
Cocktails for One,
Going out on your own doesn't make you a big loser - staying at
home when you want to go out because you're afraid of looking
like a loser makes you a loser. Besides, none of us is really
alone when we go out. We just don't know the people around us
yet. If more people would go out on their own, then more people
could meet people who are worth meeting. If you're concerned what
other people are thinking, pretend that you're meeting someone
(not a lie, you just don't know whom yet). Another approach is
to get a part-time job doing something like bartending. Then you
can go on your own and have a purpose, and easily meet people.
Or you can just be comfortable with going out on your own. Should
someone you meet think that it's weird, tell him or her, "It's
hard to meet people at home. How about this: We can exchange user
names. We can chat online for a month. Then we can arrange a time
to meet. Or we can just meet now."
