Entry #104
REJECTION DIARY:
Co-Worker's Passion For Coffee
Is Perk And Problem
Dear Harlan,
I met this great-looking girl at work. I never thought to talk
to her, because I didn't think that I stood a chance - either
that or she is already involved. Someone who looks that good has
got to have someone, right? Gradually, I warmed up to her. Turns
out that we had many common interests, such as a passion for coffee,
running and a similar sense of humor. I figured that I would take
a chance and ask her to do something outside of work. She agreed,
and we got coffee and had a great time. We had previously made
plans to start running with each other, among other minor things.
Recently, she mentioned that she had a date. It really bothered
me. Turns out that this isn't a first date, and it might not be
the last. Normally I would just leave this alone, but I know that
we have some sort of connection. I don't want to bust in on her
current dating, and I don't want to lose her as a friend. In the
same breath, I want to know how she truly feels about us. We've
only really known each other for a couple months, and been friends
the past month, but I can sense already that she just might be
the one. Can you help me?
Hesitant and Confused
Dear
Hesitant,
Put down the newspaper and go for a run. And don't get coffee
when you come back. Just pick up the paper.
Get. Go. Now!
Welcome back. Here's your wake-up call from your state of self-rejection.
There are a "latte" of other good-looking women with a passion
for coffee and an interest in you. This is only one. And you only
met her because you work together. Imagine all the others (seriously,
imagine!). Back to her. Casually ask her how long she's been with
the guy she mentioned. If she says she's in a serious relationship,
then tell her that he's a lucky guy and let it go. Clearly, you
know she likes being with you. That's all that matters. Just keep
making her laugh, keep running (and not away from her), and have
a life (date other women). When she breaks up with this guy (most
relationships end in a break-up), see what happens, assuming you
haven't already fallen for someone else. That's all you can do.
Now, grab that coffee.
