Entry
#102
REJECTION DIARY:
11 Months of Perfection And
One Imperfect Ending
Dear Harlan,
My
girlfriend of one year broke up with me after going through a
month of our first fights. For 11 months everything was perfect,
with no struggles. Then we went through a very stressful month,
and she is calling it quits. She still wants to be with me, however;
she just needs space to figure things out. It is very hard for
me to give her the space she needs, because I feel as though she
is going to fade away without me there. She has a lot of travel
plans, including a trip to Russia next month that will have her
gone for a while. I think her plans made her take a step back
from the relationship. Should I walk away and leave her alone
to think, or should I still take her advice and hang around a
couple of times a week?
Sincerely
Hurting
Dear
Hurting,
Eleven
months without arguing is about as natural as going 11 months
without going the bathroom - the bad stuff has to come out sooner
or later.
As painful as it might be, when a woman tells you she needs space,
tell her you'll miss her and you love her (assuming it's love),
and let her find her own orbit. In the true spirit of space exploration,
there should be no visitation. Then, start your own life, where
she's not the center of your universe. Or, you can see her two
days a week, agonize, convince her she's wrong, prolong the pain,
and taint what you had. I'd go with the first option
