Entry
#99
REJECTION DIARY:
Her
Dream Man Cheats
Dear
Harlan,
I've been dating the man of my dreams for almost a year. I am
23, and he is 28. He is the best thing that has ever happened
to me! We're looking at houses and plan to get married. I've never
had to worry about him EVER being unfaithful - at least, until
this weekend, when I caught him red-handed with another woman.
I found out from both sides that they only kissed. I am heartbroken!
He tells me that he is sorry and that he loves me and never wants
to be with anyone else. I believe him. I'm just having a very
difficult time getting over this.
How
can I ever trust him again? I really want to make things work
between us!
Heartbroken
in Minnesota
Dear
Heartbroken,
Warning: You won't like this reply. If you want to continue to
live in Fantasyland, please do not continue reading. Otherwise,
please proceed.
If he's the best thing that ever happened to you, he must be the
only thing you've dated. I'd be willing to bet my laptop that
this isn't the first time or the first woman he's done this with.
It's just the first time he got caught. Unless he can explain
why he did it ("I'm insecure." "I need attention." "I lack self-confidence."
etc.) and offer a specific plan of action why this will never
happen again ("I'll seek counseling." "I'll go through a program
on cheating." etc.), he's a nightmare. Never mind the house-searching
-- start the soul-searching.
