Entry
#97
REJECTION DIARY:
Anything
But a "Friendly" Rejection
Dear
Harlan,
I met this guy and we were great for each other. We did everything
together. So, I talked a bit about getting together as a couple.
Well, he was trying to keep something from me. He broke my heart
when he just flat out said that he did not like me at all.
Why
did he flirt so much? Could he have been any harsher? What was
I thinking!
Single
& Rejected
Dear
Single,
I'll tell you what he was thinking - not much. A thinking man
(and sensitive man) would be more subtle. For exampel, he could
have used the:
1) I don't want to ruin our friendship excuse
2) I'm not ready for a serious relationship excuse
3) It's me, not YOU excuse
If you want to keep him as a friend, kindly ask him to explain
all the mixed messages. Frame it as, "I'm not mad, just a little
confused…" Explain that you wanted to clear this up so the past
won't get in the way of your future friendship. If he still comes
off like a total moron, that should tell you something else. He
might not make for much of a boyfriend. His lack of respect, his
inability to communicate with you, and his lack of sensitivity
are all signs of disaster ahead.
Whatever you do, don't let this rattle you for too long. He did
you a favor by coming clean. Now, you're available to meet someone
who can appreciate you, desire you, and adore you the way that
you know that you deserve to be appreciated, desired, and adored.
