Entry
#94
REJECTION DIARY:
Ugly
Engagement Ring Has Her
At a Loss For Words
Dear Harlan,
I'm 26 years old, and my boyfriend just proposed to me. I was
absolutely shocked, as the talk of marriage has never been a discussion.
He is 36 and was previously married. I actually didn't think that
he wanted to get married again. The problem is I do not like my
ring at all! I know this sound selfish, but I can't help it. It's
almost been a week, and I really have tried to get used to it,
but I just don't like it. I don't even know if I want to get married.
Someday, yes, but within a year or so, NO. I need serious help.
Engagement
Disaster
Dear
Disaster,
Wouldn't that be funny if his first wife gave back the ring because
it was ugly and then he gave it to you? Well, not really funny...
Forget the ugly ring - start working on the ugly communication.
Considering that you two have never talked about marriage prior
to his popping the question, it's safe to assume that you haven't
talked about the issues that surround marriage - little things
like family planning, religion, where to live, raising children
and all the other things that go into making a lifetime commitment.
Start with the big picture, and see if you even make it to the
ring. If you can talk freely, then you can talk about anything,
including the ugliness on your finger. Who knows? Maybe you can
find a wedding ring to compliment it, or just overpower it, assuming
you have a wedding.
