Entry
#92
REJECTION DIARY:
Friend Who Wanted More Got More
Than She Expected
Dear Readers,
In the ongoing pursuit of exposing the Universal Rejection Truth
of love and life, I wanted to share another diary entry of Risk-Taking
Research from an International Rejection Project participant ...
Hey All,
This past school year I showed up at college and started hanging
out with a great guy. He is gorgeous, about 5 feet 10 inches tall
with straight brown hair, reasonably long (but I like it that
way) and a soccer player's body. We became good friends, and I
started to crush on him madly. Eventually things got to be too
much for me, and I called him into my room. He lounged on my bed
playing with my stuffed animals while I scrounged up my courage.
I told him that he probably knew on some level already, but I
still felt I needed to tell him that I liked him. I told him that
I wasn't trying to be his girlfriend, but that keeping my feelings
a secret wasn't helping me or our friendship. I just wanted to
get it off my chest. He said "OK" (a pretty lame response, which
he later apologized for), and said that he didn't think that it
needed to change our relationship. I was a bit disappointed, but
glad I had told him.
Now the good part: Because he knows that he can count on me to
tell him exactly how I'm feeling and trusts me tremendously, he
is now my best friend. And because I knew how he felt, I was able
to consider dating other people. I'm now in a fantastic relationship
and celebrating my five-month anniversary - I never lost a thing
in the deal! I've got a beautiful boyfriend in my life who loves
me, and a fantastic friend who supports me. So don't give up!
"No" doesn't mean you get nothing out of the relationship - it
can be the beginning of a whole new chapter.
Risk-taker
