Entry
#87
REJECTION DIARY:
College Freshman Toils with Keeping
High School Sweetheart
Dear Harlan,
I'm a college freshman with a girlfriend who is a senior in high
school. We've been together two years. The long-distance relationship
is working fairly well; we see each other about once a month.
I love her so much, but I have a problem. When we are together,
we are both so happy. Then, the longer I go without seeing her,
I become accustomed to not having her around. Then, I don't miss
her as much. Next year she's going away to college, most likely
out of state and far from where I am. I don't know if we should
continue our relationship after she goes away. I am afraid to
lose her (and she feels the same), but would it be best if we
both go our separate ways?
Doubting the Distance
Dear
Doubting,
It's like when my pants are too tight and I know I need to stop
eating, but I ignore it and keep eating. You seem to know what
to do. Your letter says it all. To help you see it, I've pulled
key words from your letter to help guide you:
1)
"I am afraid to lose her."
2) "I don't miss her as much."
3) "I love her."
4) "...best to go our separate ways"
It's scary, but until you feel what it's like to truly be apart,
you'll have these doubts popping in and out of year mind every
other thought. You owe it to her, to yourself and to the relationship
to do whatever it will take to erase the doubt. Should that mean
taking a break and should you end up getting back together, you'll
never have these same doubts again.
