HARLAN CHAT
- JULY 5, 2001 -

 

CHAT DIVA: hello :)

HELP ME, HARLAN: do you see me

HELP ME, HARLAN: Diva?

CHAT DIVA: are you wearing your invisibility cloak again?

HELP ME, HARLAN: I'm here...

HELP ME, HARLAN: My invisible red white and blue cloak

HELP ME, HARLAN: I've got the good stuff today... that was pretty funny stuff

HELP ME, HARLAN: So, hey

HELP ME, HARLAN: welcome everyone

HELP ME, HARLAN: Happy 5th of July

HELP ME, HARLAN: And Happy 6th and 7th, too

HELP ME, HARLAN: I had a great 4th

HELP ME, HARLAN: of july

HELP ME, HARLAN: I celebrated here in Chicago, IL

HELP ME, HARLAN: for those of you abroad

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's in the United States

HELP ME, HARLAN: just above Peoria, IL

HELP ME, HARLAN: I'm sure you know exactly where that is...

HELP ME, HARLAN: I watched fireworks in Grant park

HELP ME, HARLAN: a lot of people were watching me watch fireworks in grant park

HELP ME, HARLAN: I was totally nude except for my RED WHITE AND BLUE body paint

HELP ME, HARLAN: Okay!

HELP ME, HARLAN: Hey, you guys can send in your celebration stories

HELP ME, HARLAN: throughout the chat

HELP ME, HARLAN: if you're interested

HELP ME, HARLAN: it can even be a Canada Day story

HELP ME, HARLAN: or just what you did the celebrate the 4th, even if the 4th is no different than the 3rd for you

HELP ME, HARLAN: just tell us what you did in the "ask question" box

HELP ME, HARLAN: and tell us what you were wearing

HELP ME, HARLAN: it helps paint the complete picture

HELP ME, HARLAN: Hey Diva

CHAT DIVA: yes...

HELP ME, HARLAN: What did you do for the 4th

HELP ME, HARLAN: of july, not june

HELP ME, HARLAN: snore snore

CHAT DIVA: Spent the day with friends and the guy that I'm seeing... at the beach.. having margaritas (is that not patriotic?)

HELP ME, HARLAN: huh, a guy you're seeing...

HELP ME, HARLAN: Mannnnnnnnnn that sucks

HELP ME, HARLAN: okay, one more thing

CHAT DIVA: Sorry Harlan :>

HELP ME, HARLAN: this chat copyright Help Me, Harlan2001

HELP ME, HARLAN: that includes the questions... even the ones that don't get posted

HELP ME, HARLAN: let's get rolling

HELP ME, HARLAN: Chat Diva has a boyfriend

HELP ME, HARLAN: no more talking to her

HELP ME, HARLAN: :)

 

idahocheerleader: harlan, my boyfriend of 2months was in a long term relationship before me, he got the girl pregnant because she pushed him into

it(she wanted a kid)he is 16 and she is 18 and 6months pregnant. She still calls him all the time, and he gets mad and depressed, than it confuses me,

what should I do to help him and keep her away from him??????

 

idahocheerleader: and also, how do i make my first time less painful???

HELP ME, HARLAN: First question

HELP ME, HARLAN: He is the father of this baby

HELP ME, HARLAN: he wasn't pushed into anything

HELP ME, HARLAN: he pushed himself

HELP ME, HARLAN: This is his relationship

HELP ME, HARLAN: and his situation

HELP ME, HARLAN: Keeping her away from him is not your responsibility

HELP ME, HARLAN: Listen, this is his father

HELP ME, HARLAN: the baby's father

HELP ME, HARLAN: and that's something he needs to deal with for the rest of his life

HELP ME, HARLAN: and you can't make it better

HELP ME, HARLAN: he needs to make it better

HELP ME, HARLAN: and you need to NOT get involved

HELP ME, HARLAN: You're probably wondering... how do you NOT get involved???

HELP ME, HARLAN: You distance yourself from this boyfriend

HELP ME, HARLAN: CLEARLY, he's not ready to date you or anyone

HELP ME, HARLAN: he has to deal with this current situation

HELP ME, HARLAN: if he's constantly depressed and down, that's not something you can fix

HELP ME, HARLAN: he needs to sort things out

HELP ME, HARLAN: you might suggest he see a therapist

HELP ME, HARLAN: if he can't get out of his funk

HELP ME, HARLAN: but you're not a health professional

HELP ME, HARLAN: you are NOT equipped to fix this situation

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's something HE needs to deal with

 

mcdonalds_girly: She can still be there for him as a friend though, can't she?

HELP ME, HARLAN: DEFINITELY

HELP ME, HARLAN: but I PRAY YOU DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM

HELP ME, HARLAN: PLEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSEEEEEEEEEE

HELP ME, HARLAN: next thing you know

HELP ME, HARLAN: you'll be the next woman who is pregnanty harassing him...

 

idahocheerleader: i want her to quite harassing him, I don't mean keep her from him, she always calls him crying and says that she wants to marry him,

than he gets all mad and says he wishes she would quiteharassing him and be normal

 

idahocheerleader: he tells me he loves me all the time, but sometimes I feel out of place

HELP ME, HARLAN: He NEEDS TO DEAL WITH THIS

HELP ME, HARLAN: this is his situation

 

idahocheerleader: the reason she was pregnant is because she told him she didn't want to use protection

HELP ME, HARLAN: well he should have said, I DO

HELP ME, HARLAN: no excuses

HELP ME, HARLAN: none

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's not a healthy situation for you

HELP ME, HARLAN: this has become your problem

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's NOT

HELP ME, HARLAN: it doesn't have to be

HELP ME, HARLAN: He needs to find a way to deal with her because it's tearing you apart

HELP ME, HARLAN: but from everything you've said

HELP ME, HARLAN: he doesn't seem to be the best communicator...

HELP ME, HARLAN: or user of birth control

HELP ME, HARLAN: he's responsible

HELP ME, HARLAN: for him and his ex and his future baby

HELP ME, HARLAN: obviously

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's too much of a strain of everyone here

HELP ME, HARLAN: and please

HELP ME, HARLAN: send in your commments

HELP ME, HARLAN: anyone

 

idahocheerleader: he is just a kid, he has only slept with her, he didn't know better, he met her when he was 13 and shewas 18

HELP ME, HARLAN: You can make excuse s for him forever

HELP ME, HARLAN: they are still excuses

HELP ME, HARLAN: and the situation is still the situation

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's upsetting you

HELP ME, HARLAN: and he seems a long way from being able to handle the situation alone

HELP ME, HARLAN: let alone with an intimate partner

 

idahocheerleader: I love him, and I don'twant to split up with him

HELP ME, HARLAN: I don't question your love

HELP ME, HARLAN: but this might not be the right time to be his girlfriend

HELP ME, HARLAN: he needs to figure things out

HELP ME, HARLAN: he doesn't need a girlfriend... especially one who is thinking of being intimate with him

 

mcdonalds_girly: He can't just ignore her though because he's going to be a father and he can't run away from that. It's going to be with him for the rest

of his life now

HELP ME, HARLAN: and HE needs to deal with this and be comfortable with this

HELP ME, HARLAN: this is a problem HE needs to work out

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's making you miserable

 

hawiiangirl81887: i think it is ok for her to sleep with him (the new girlfriend) as long as she understands they have to use protection and she shouldn't

expect a commitment out of him

HELP ME, HARLAN: and even if they use protection.. she could get pregnant

HELP ME, HARLAN: the good news

HELP ME, HARLAN: is that this guy can use a lot of 2 for 1 coupons when shopping for his new babies....

HELP ME, HARLAN: it happens all the time!!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: not the 2 for 1's

HELP ME, HARLAN: the pregnant thing

 

mcdonalds_girly: maybe she should go talk to someone too... a friend or something. Friends are great to lean on in times like this

HELP ME, HARLAN: Definitely

HELP ME, HARLAN: thanks Mcdonalds_girly

HELP ME, HARLAN: talk to your friends and family and even a counselor at school

HELP ME, HARLAN: he is dealing with so much