Help Me, Harlan!

HARLAN CHAT
- June 7, 2001 -

CHAT DIVA: Hey everyone!

CHAT DIVA: It's about that time

HELP ME, HARLAN: What time?

CHAT DIVA: Howdy Doody time

CHAT DIVA:

HELP ME, HARLAN: Yes

HELP ME, HARLAN: Hey

HELP ME, HARLAN: Welcome

HELP ME, HARLAN: Hi ya doing

HELP ME, HARLAN: Hi Chat Diva

CHAT DIVA: hi ho

CHAT DIVA: :)

HELP ME, HARLAN: So, big day today

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's june

HELP ME, HARLAN: our first chat in june

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's exciting

HELP ME, HARLAN: So, I had a great lunch today

HELP ME, HARLAN: I had a foot long vegie sub from Subway

HELP ME, HARLAN: Hey Diva

HELP ME, HARLAN: did you know Jared, the kid from the Subway ads who lost like

HELP ME, HARLAN: a gazillion pounds

HELP ME, HARLAN: went to Indiana University

HELP ME, HARLAN: my former college

HELP ME, HARLAN: I ate at the Subway he lost all that weight

HELP ME, HARLAN: ironically,

HELP ME, HARLAN: I gained 20 pounds there

CHAT DIVA: I did not know

CHAT DIVA: :O

HELP ME, HARLAN: yep!!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: Ok

HELP ME, HARLAN: enough of this crap small talk

HELP ME, HARLAN: if you don't know me

HELP ME, HARLAN: you can check out the bio

HELP ME, HARLAN: we got questions

HELP ME, HARLAN: first question

HELP ME, HARLAN: please

yournaturalchoice: What's a good 1st line to get a woman's attention?

HELP ME, HARLAN: Start with HI

HELP ME, HARLAN: seriously

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's all you need

HELP ME, HARLAN: if she likes you then she'll say hi back

HELP ME, HARLAN: if she doesn't she'll just smile

HELP ME, HARLAN: or give you some sign

HELP ME, HARLAN: actually she might smile if she likes you

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's when you say...

HELP ME, HARLAN: what's honestly on your mind

HELP ME, HARLAN: something like, "You look familiar...

HELP ME, HARLAN: or you see like someone

HELP ME, HARLAN: i would get along with...

HELP ME, HARLAN: or anything

HELP ME, HARLAN: just say something!!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: and know

HELP ME, HARLAN: I'd like your comments

HELP ME, HARLAN: from guys and girls

HELP ME, HARLAN: give me your lines

HELP ME, HARLAN: and for those girls out there... what lines do you like

HELP ME, HARLAN: do you agree with "Hello"

HELP ME, HARLAN: if you like a guy... is that cool?

HELP ME, HARLAN: tell me

HELP ME, HARLAN: and guys can send in their lines

HELP ME, HARLAN: Diva is waiting

HELP ME, HARLAN: type it in the ask questions box

thestaticone51: well i say hey how are you and if they awnser back i say well i was siting over there and i saw you and thought it would be nice talking to

you !

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's perfect

HELP ME, HARLAN: it doesn't have to be a ridicoulous... your dad must be an astronomer because he stole the stars and put them in your eyes...

HELP ME, HARLAN: blah blah blah

skyler_dreamer: i agree with hello

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's so simple

crisisqueen81: compliments are good, cheesy lines aren't- if i hear i lost my number, can i have yours? one more time i'll scream

HELP ME, HARLAN: yeah, i hate when you scream

sweetsuggasprkles: WELL MAYBE SAYHI I'M SO AND SOWHATS YOUR NAME??

HELP ME, HARLAN: crisisqueen81

HELP ME, HARLAN: i like your name

HELP ME, HARLAN: i lost my name... can you tell me yours???

baby_blue_babe_13: i personally like the line "hey babe" or "hey hottie"! something to get my attention!

HELP ME, HARLAN: hey hottie

HELP ME, HARLAN: you like that, huh

CHAT DIVA: and here we have the wrong things to say...

Refused_99: heres 10p call ur mum and say u won't b home 2nite

HELP ME, HARLAN: let 'em roll

brian42783437: I like your shirt....but it'll look better on my floor in the morning

HELP ME, HARLAN: YES!!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's so attractive

HELP ME, HARLAN: back to the questions

thestaticone51: well i have known this girl for about 6 years now and i have totally fallen in love with her but she told me she has feelings for me that are

more than friends but when i ask her out she doesn't wanna go out and when i ask her why she never gives me a strait a3wnser and i dont know what to

do !

HELP ME, HARLAN: ask her out one more time... when she gives your standard answer...

HELP ME, HARLAN: ask her..

HELP ME, HARLAN: assuming you're asking her in a language you both understand

HELP ME, HARLAN: you deserve an answer

HELP ME, HARLAN: she's very confusing

HELP ME, HARLAN: give her chance to clear the air

HELP ME, HARLAN: but ask her one more time

colorme17: ok i have a question. What do i do about if i like someone and he is noting likeing me??

HELP ME, HARLAN: You like someone else

HELP ME, HARLAN: and then one day

HELP ME, HARLAN: he might realize he lost his chance

HELP ME, HARLAN: and then you'll probably break-up with your current guy

HELP ME, HARLAN: and he'll want to be your boyfriend

HELP ME, HARLAN: but you just keep looking

HELP ME, HARLAN: and looking

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's only naturaly that MOST guys and MOST girls will not date each other

HELP ME, HARLAN: i talk about it every week

HELP ME, HARLAN: but REJECTION is totally normal

HELP ME, HARLAN: and if you're NOT getting rejected... then you're not doing it right

HELP ME, HARLAN: so keep asking

ash1147: WHAT IS BLUE BALL

HELP ME, HARLAN: Blue balls is when you have an erection for a long time... and your testicles start to ache

HELP ME, HARLAN: usually ejaculating relieves the discomfort

HELP ME, HARLAN: i'm not a doctor

HELP ME, HARLAN: so i can't tell you the scientific explanation

HELP ME, HARLAN: but if you're a guy and you've had an erection for hours while on a date...

HELP ME, HARLAN: with no release for hours

HELP ME, HARLAN: you know blue balls

HELP ME, HARLAN: and for the girls out there

HELP ME, HARLAN: they don't actually turn blue

HELP ME, HARLAN: unless you're a Smurf

HELP ME, HARLAN: they always have blue balls

HELP ME, HARLAN: oh yea

HELP ME, HARLAN: and it's usually not just "a" blue ball.. .as is one... unless you've just got one

HELP ME, HARLAN: like a smurf

rita13760: Is it okay to date some one you work with

HELP ME, HARLAN: not if you're looking for cheap fast action

HELP ME, HARLAN: chances are you're going to break up

HELP ME, HARLAN: and when you do, it sucks

HELP ME, HARLAN: looking at your ex every day

HELP ME, HARLAN: and then there's the dynamics of the office

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's just a sloppy

HELP ME, HARLAN: unless you're a prostitute and he's your pimp...

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's still messy, but a lot easier to handle

the_braindoctor: My girlfriends nearly 2 weeks late - shud i be worried?

HELP ME, HARLAN: Not unless you're hoping to have a baby

HELP ME, HARLAN: if you're sexually active

HELP ME, HARLAN: and she's late

HELP ME, HARLAN: thats' reason for concern

HELP ME, HARLAN: it might be nothing

HELP ME, HARLAN: but it could be something

HELP ME, HARLAN: and that's something you have to deal with

HELP ME, HARLAN: i say she calls up her gynecologist

HELP ME, HARLAN: or local planned parenthood

HELP ME, HARLAN: or a crisis pregnancy center

HELP ME, HARLAN: a place you both trust and find some answers

HELP ME, HARLAN: the sooner the better

HELP ME, HARLAN: yeah, she could be late

HELP ME, HARLAN: or she might have missed it because of some other reason

HELP ME, HARLAN: but don't just stand around waiting

HELP ME, HARLAN: and you can try an over the counter pregnancy test, but they're NOT always accurage

HELP ME, HARLAN: so seek medical couseling ASAP

HELP ME, HARLAN: and know... that if she is pregnant, there are SOOO many people who want to help

HELP ME, HARLAN: please seek them out

crisisqueen81: Harlan- please, for all the ladies, make sure you tell this guy to act like a man, if she's pregnant he needs to take responsibility for the

consequences of his actions

HELP ME, HARLAN: i think you did a better job, thanks!

HELP ME, HARLAN: and really, any comments are always welcome

HELP ME, HARLAN: this chat is your forum

HELP ME, HARLAN: anyone who has been there and experienced these Q and A, send in your comments please :)

brian42783437: Do women really enjoy Anal Sex?

HELP ME, HARLAN: EVERYONE of them...

HELP ME, HARLAN: totally kidding

HELP ME, HARLAN: some do and some don't

HELP ME, HARLAN: but you need to talk about it... before going there

HELP ME, HARLAN: and you need to lots of lubrication should you make that choice

spudettecymru: u better be kidding

canadian_babe05: wemen do NOT enjoy it at all!

onenaughtygirl_69: no

giggle6682: no anal sex

HELP ME, HARLAN: oh, here comes the feedback from the angry non anal girls

HELP ME, HARLAN: so, i guess there's two "no's"

beachbunnybarbie: alot of times it depends on the woman

glamgurl6: it's not a pleasant surprise

innocent1_4u2c: some do

grapes_222: nope

beachbunnybarbie: lol :) i do!

HELP ME, HARLAN: you do, huh

HELP ME, HARLAN: there's one

HELP ME, HARLAN: so it's 2 to 1

beachbunnybarbie: as long as theres lubrication, its somethign that i enjoy

HELP ME, HARLAN: lots of lube

cyberbabe110: o way anal sex, wemon hate it

curious71cuda: No Way !!!!!!!!!1

canadian_babe05: it depends how good the guy is(or girl in my case!)

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's 3 no and 3 yes... a split down the middle

erin_jojo: it's way more than 2 to 2...it's more like 6 to 2

HELP ME, HARLAN: oh, 6 no's

keeky29: anal sex..is what we are talking about? ... I like it...but I'm sore after , I think I mainly do it to please my man..how 50's of me would you say?

HELP ME, HARLAN: yeah, the 50s exactly...

HELP ME, HARLAN: Doris Day, Milk Shakes, and Lots of anal sex to please your man

baby_love622: oh my

gr8midude: lube is a definite must under those circumstances...and trust

HELP ME, HARLAN: speaking of trust

crisisqueen81: I want to ask Harlan a question about trust, and whether trust can be regained in a relationship after a serious breach of trust

crisisqueen81: That's exactly the problem I had with my ex-boyfriend, he took off the minute I told him I was pregnant, now we have a 9 month old, and

I have no problem with him seeing her, but he also wants to get back together and I don't know if I could ever trust him again

HELP ME, HARLAN: you can forgive, but you never forget...

HELP ME, HARLAN: Why is this time going to be any different?

HELP ME, HARLAN: Maybe he has a good answer

HELP ME, HARLAN: maybe, he's grown up

HELP ME, HARLAN: maybe he got scared

HELP ME, HARLAN: maybe he was too young to handle the responsibility and freaked out

HELP ME, HARLAN: but if you knew and understood

HELP ME, HARLAN: you might be able to forgive

HELP ME, HARLAN: but not forget

HELP ME, HARLAN: but all you need to do is to be able to forgive

HELP ME, HARLAN: and trust him again

HELP ME, HARLAN: considering you have a baby together...

HELP ME, HARLAN: it might be something to consider

HELP ME, HARLAN: but only if you can trust him

HELP ME, HARLAN: if not, he can be your friend

keeky29: You NEVER forget...and it always seems to come up in arguments later!

HELP ME, HARLAN: and that's part of forgiving

HELP ME, HARLAN: not bringing it up and using it against someone

HELP ME, HARLAN: you make a choice to trust again

baby_blue_babe_13: or maybe he just wants to "get some" again???

HELP ME, HARLAN: maybe

HELP ME, HARLAN: but you can go slow

HELP ME, HARLAN: and see his motives

HELP ME, HARLAN: and judge for yourself

HELP ME, HARLAN: really, what happens if he gets you pregnant again

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's a question he needs to ask

HELP ME, HARLAN: trusting someone as a friend is different than trusting someone as a lover

keeky29: No one wants a Friend they can't trust either.

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's what i was referring to

skyler_dreamer: i just wanted to ask ....if you are on birth control can you get std's or are you protected?

HELP ME, HARLAN: YES you can get them all

HELP ME, HARLAN: everyone of them

HELP ME, HARLAN: it only keeps you from getting pregnant, 99 percent of the time

HELP ME, HARLAN: that still leaves one percent

HELP ME, HARLAN: so use a spermicide, too... just to be safe

HELP ME, HARLAN: AND REALLY

HELP ME, HARLAN: you need to have a doctor that you can ask these questions

HELP ME, HARLAN: you NEED a doctor

keeky29: WOW Skyler..... I hope you learn more before you have sex.

HELP ME, HARLAN: ANY GIRL Having sex NEEDS to have a gynecologist

HELP ME, HARLAN: you NEED annual exams

innocent1_4u2c: Definately!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: yeah, you can get them all.. be safe. Condoms

HELP ME, HARLAN: will protect you

HELP ME, HARLAN: but you can still get herpes and genital warts

HELP ME, HARLAN: even with a condom

HELP ME, HARLAN: these things are everywhere

HELP ME, HARLAN: 1 in 5 teens get something

HELP ME, HARLAN: be careful

cyberbabe110: a birth control only helps you from becoming pregnant, its not an std stoper

HELP ME, HARLAN: no stopper

HELP ME, HARLAN: and also

HELP ME, HARLAN: you can check out medical Q & A on www.drdrew.com

HELP ME, HARLAN: and there's my website, too

HELP ME, HARLAN: i have some good links to resources at www.helpmeharlan.com/helpyourself.html

HELP ME, HARLAN: but stay here for now. please :)

baby_love622: i have another question im 17 turning 18 and i have this huge crsuh with a teacher from 8th grade. and i really really like him.

baby_love622: i'm going to see him in two days .. do you think that is healthy?

HELP ME, HARLAN: You're not still in 8th grade... and 17 right?

HELP ME, HARLAN: I think that it's not a good idea

HELP ME, HARLAN: why a teacher, who has to be a good 10 years older than you

HELP ME, HARLAN: would want something more is wrong

glamgurl6: oh my god that is such a bad idea

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's TOTALLY unhealthy

keeky29: Not unless he is a really, really young 8th grade teacher.

HELP ME, HARLAN: And even if he is young

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's still show terrible judgement on his part

HELP ME, HARLAN: really, it's a student teach crush

HELP ME, HARLAN: and you should be very careful

kodak4_94: no baby love, that is definitely danger zone!

innocent1_4u2c: I think she knows the answer to that question, she just needs to hear it from someone else!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: I do , too

HELP ME, HARLAN: please

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's only creating trouble

HELP ME, HARLAN: you know it

HELP ME, HARLAN: this is the type of situation you look back upon and think,... "I wish i could do this over"

HELP ME, HARLAN: don't do it... and then you won't have to do it over

baby_love622: i'll be 18 in like days

HELP ME, HARLAN: it doesn't matter... It's a bad idea

HELP ME, HARLAN: I think he should wait until you're out of college

HELP ME, HARLAN: be his friend

HELP ME, HARLAN: but please, don't cross that line

mak980: on the subject of age differences, what do you think is bad judgement, as far as dating older women?

HELP ME, HARLAN: it varies

HELP ME, HARLAN: everyone matures differently

HELP ME, HARLAN: but i'll tell you

HELP ME, HARLAN: someone who is a teenager

HELP ME, HARLAN: and falls in love for the first time with someone older

HELP ME, HARLAN: is opening himself or herself up for trouble

HELP ME, HARLAN: there is something to be said about experiencing first time feelings with someone your age

HELP ME, HARLAN: or of a similar age

HELP ME, HARLAN: and it's WAY TOO EASY to be takend advantage of

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's very risky to date someone older

HELP ME, HARLAN: and really

HELP ME, HARLAN: my thinking is that the older person know it

HELP ME, HARLAN: and that's why they do it

HELP ME, HARLAN: they can be in control

HELP ME, HARLAN: of the situation

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's not always a 50/50 partnership

HELP ME, HARLAN: and that's a huge risk

stevenwilliams99: im bout 2 kill my self over a 36 yo woman...im 18

HELP ME, HARLAN: please, call someone immediately

HELP ME, HARLAN: here's the number of a crisis line

HELP ME, HARLAN: 800 999 9999

HELP ME, HARLAN: please, there are people who want to help

HELP ME, HARLAN: who want to love you

HELP ME, HARLAN: and can love you

HELP ME, HARLAN: please...

HELP ME, HARLAN: call immediately. and if you can't get through call 911 or your local hospital

brian42783437: Don't even say something like that......There are way too many women out there!!!!!

chiquitika143: things come and go but its not worth to take your life over it

chiquitika143: suicide is never the answer

glamgurl6: don't do it over a woman, there is more to life

HELP ME, HARLAN: please call

HELP ME, HARLAN: there are sooooo many people who want to help

jaityera2: Im 21 and married, and have thoughts of other men is this bad?

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's normal to fantasize

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's normal to find other people attractive

HELP ME, HARLAN: but "thoughts"

HELP ME, HARLAN: of actually acting on these feelings is bad

HELP ME, HARLAN: the idea that you would "actually" want to be with another man

HELP ME, HARLAN: is not a good sign

HELP ME, HARLAN: find that passion with your husband

HELP ME, HARLAN: work on it

HELP ME, HARLAN: if you love your husband and love being with your husband than enjoy it

HELP ME, HARLAN: and stop beating yourself up emotionally

HELP ME, HARLAN: but if you're missing something in your marriage

HELP ME, HARLAN: work on it now

HELP ME, HARLAN: because it's not going to magically go away

dreamrules2001: my b/f is really pressuring me to have sex withought a condom and he said that if I don't have sex with him that he'll tell everyone all

my secrets! Help!

HELP ME, HARLAN: This guy is a HUGE ASS

HELP ME, HARLAN: he doesn't love you

HELP ME, HARLAN: I don't even think he likes you

HELP ME, HARLAN: because this is sooooo terribly mean and manipulative

HELP ME, HARLAN: i doesn't deserve you

HELP ME, HARLAN: or your body

HELP ME, HARLAN: i say you dump him

HELP ME, HARLAN: or he changes his attitude

HELP ME, HARLAN: Really, he's blackmailing you

HELP ME, HARLAN: Don't worry about your "secrets"

HELP ME, HARLAN: do you think ANY GIRL would EVER go out with a guy who revealed his ex's secrets

HELP ME, HARLAN: NO

HELP ME, HARLAN: he can think long and hard about when you tell him where he can go!!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: He makes me sick :(

keeky29: Kick him to the curb Dream!~!~~!~ :)

chiquitika143: he just wants sex and if he manipulates you in that way then that person is not right for you

baby_blue_babe_13: okay, first dump his sorry ass then if he says stuff about you or tells people your secrets.... I know it sounds childish and

everything, but start saying stuff about him and maybe he will get the point and leave you alone!

HELP ME, HARLAN: I disagree

HELP ME, HARLAN: don't play his game... it's a losing game

HELP ME, HARLAN: Really, NO GIRLS

HELP ME, HARLAN: would go out with someone who did what he says he'll do

keeky29: wow..you are sensitive harlen...are you gay..? and if not..are you single??? LOL~

HELP ME, HARLAN: No, I'm not gay

HELP ME, HARLAN: I just get really pissed off when a guy does crap like that

HELP ME, HARLAN: it really makes upset

HELP ME, HARLAN: and I have a girlfriend

HELP ME, HARLAN: thanks :)

str8rollinus: whats wrong with gay people

HELP ME, HARLAN: be who you want to be and be happy being you

huntercross2002: My question is this I am twenty two and I am still a virgin and I get either one of two things. Either a guy who runs away because he's

honeslty looking for some or guys who think oh i can change her mind. I don't care about the guys that leave because hey I've made my choice and I'm

sticking to it, but for the guys that just don't get it . How do I make it crystal clear?

HELP ME, HARLAN: so, you're waiting to get married?

HELP ME, HARLAN: those guys who don't get it aren't going to get it and they should know right from the start

HELP ME, HARLAN: and you can tell them

HELP ME, HARLAN: and you can tell them what you won't do and what you will do

HELP ME, HARLAN: if it's someone you trust

HELP ME, HARLAN: and think you can grow with and have a future with

HELP ME, HARLAN: there are guys who can respect you

HELP ME, HARLAN: i get letters

HELP ME, HARLAN: from single guys looking for women with strong morals all the time

HELP ME, HARLAN: maybe, you need to seek these people out

HELP ME, HARLAN: in place where they congregate

HELP ME, HARLAN: like a Virgin Bar

HELP ME, HARLAN: just kidding

HELP ME, HARLAN: i don't know if they have those

CHAT DIVA: that's a great marketing idea

HELP ME, HARLAN: but you know if they did... some guy would go there trying to reform you

HELP ME, HARLAN: and get himself a virgin

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's one bar where you would have to show 2 pieces of ID

HELP ME, HARLAN: but anyway

HELP ME, HARLAN: try a religous setting

HELP ME, HARLAN: seek out people with a similar moral fabric

HELP ME, HARLAN: and you'll eliminate

HELP ME, HARLAN: the creeps or the guys looking for a challenge

kclos514: how would you recomed asking your "partner" to get an AIDS test?

HELP ME, HARLAN: SAY IT

HELP ME, HARLAN: How about, "Get an AIDS test"

HELP ME, HARLAN: there are these home kits

HELP ME, HARLAN: you can get in the states

HELP ME, HARLAN: There is one called "Home Access"

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's like $30.00

HELP ME, HARLAN: it comes with everything you need

HELP ME, HARLAN: results are in w/in about a week

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's easy as that

HELP ME, HARLAN: and if your partner won't get the test

HELP ME, HARLAN: your partner IS NOT someone who should be your partner

HELP ME, HARLAN: really, this AIDS thing is VERY scary

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's on the rise again

HELP ME, HARLAN: and sooooo many teenagers

HELP ME, HARLAN: are at risk

HELP ME, HARLAN: and MOST do not even know if they are HIV positive

HELP ME, HARLAN: it doesn't matter whether your heterosexual

HELP ME, HARLAN: or homosexual

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's out there and it's a VERY VERY VERY Serious concern

HELP ME, HARLAN: you can get in via oral sex

HELP ME, HARLAN: not just intercourse.. and anal sex

HELP ME, HARLAN: and it's here

HELP ME, HARLAN: and the number keep rising again

HELP ME, HARLAN: please

HELP ME, HARLAN: and know that you CAN get HIV

adriana_981: ive got this friend and she has aids but the problem is how should she tell her boyfriend?

HELP ME, HARLAN: She needs to find some support

HELP ME, HARLAN: there are HIV and AIDS support groups everywhere

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's hard to know where she is at in the process

HELP ME, HARLAN: there are so many factors

HELP ME, HARLAN: director her to an AIDS support group

HELP ME, HARLAN: Let me get you a link...

HELP ME, HARLAN: Actually, here's a number to call

HELP ME, HARLAN: 800 342-2437

HELP ME, HARLAN: here is a link to Kaiser Family Foundation for STD info:

HELP ME, HARLAN: www.itsyoursexlife.com

HELP ME, HARLAN: I'm going to get you another link

crisisqueen81: people also need to know that someone recently infected might not test hiv positive for 6 months so they still need to practice safe sex

HELP ME, HARLAN: yeah, and even 6 months isn't always enough to get an accurate result

HELP ME, HARLAN: get tested if you're sexually active

HELP ME, HARLAN: and be extremely careful

HELP ME, HARLAN: here is a link for HIV info: www.ashastd.org

HELP ME, HARLAN: and for treatment:

HELP ME, HARLAN: www.hivatis.org

HELP ME, HARLAN: I know we're getting all these HIV questions in...

HELP ME, HARLAN: I'm going to do an HIV chat

HELP ME, HARLAN: with a specialist in the upcoming weeks

HELP ME, HARLAN: would guys come back for that???

HELP ME, HARLAN: write me now

HELP ME, HARLAN: put yes or no in the question box

CHAT DIVA: Hey Harlan.. before we're outta here.. I want to just drop this thank you in ...

cowgirlpride2001: harlan thanx u for helping me get out of an abusive relation ship! i am doing much better and am with someone much better now!

thank you!

HELP ME, HARLAN: wow

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's the nicest message

HELP ME, HARLAN: i'm soooooo happy for you!!!!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: and anyone else out there... who is in an abusive relationship. PLEASE GET OUT!!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: there are people waiting to help you

HELP ME, HARLAN: I'm not going to post the YES and NO to the HIV chat question

HELP ME, HARLAN: but it gives me and idea

HELP ME, HARLAN: in the meantime, you can check out the links

HELP ME, HARLAN: So, we're totally over on time

CHAT DIVA: as the Ferris Bueller soundtrack says .. "Oh Yeah"

HELP ME, HARLAN: you can check out Q & A on my website at www.helepmeharlan.com

HELP ME, HARLAN: oops

HELP ME, HARLAN: www.helpmeharlan.com

HELP ME, HARLAN: that other one will take you to the x rated site

HELP ME, HARLAN: :) just kidding

HELP ME, HARLAN: and i have my book

HELP ME, HARLAN: that's perfect for graduation

HELP ME, HARLAN: it's called "Campus Life Exposed: Advice from the Inside"

HELP ME, HARLAN: info online

HELP ME, HARLAN: so, we're way over

HELP ME, HARLAN: but deals with all teen related issues

CHAT DIVA: Chiquitika... join us next week... we'll get to your question and everyone else's then :)

HELP ME, HARLAN: thank you soooo much

HELP ME, HARLAN: to everyone who hung out here today!!!

HELP ME, HARLAN: we'll be back next week

HELP ME, HARLAN: same time

HELP ME, HARLAN: same place

HELP ME, HARLAN: same Chat Diva

CHAT DIVA:

HELP ME, HARLAN: thanks Diva, you're the best!!!

CHAT DIVA: Thanks harlan! You rock baby

HELP ME, HARLAN: See ya guys next week!!!!! Later :)

CHAT DIVA: Ciao everyone!

crisisqueen81: adios harlan